JANET JACOBS
 
MS. STAMBAUGH:  The first memorial is for Janet Jacobs, written by Mary Grant, her successor at the Ellis School.  Mary couldn't be here tonight.
 
Educated at Northfield School and at Oberlin College, Janet Jacobs obtained her master's degree from Radcliffe College.  She taught history and English at Northfield, served as an administrator at Wilson College in Chambersburg, Pennsylvania, and then returned to Northfield to teach and to serve as dean.  She was lured to Ellis in July of 1971 and led the school for 15 years until her retirement in 1986.  She maintained close contact with the school and died on January 15, 2007.
 
Janet Jacobs was extraordinarily important to Ellis.  She built the endowment, she saw to the building of a separate middle school, she established more scholarships, and she launched an after-school program for lower schoolgirls that remains immensely popular to this day.  In fact, little girls are known to beg their mothers to let them stay at Ellis for "after school" even when their mothers are able to care for them at home.
 
Perhaps her most enduring contribution was the establishment of an endowed fund for faculty growth and development, our JEP Fund.  Since it began, Ellis faculties have been able to access thousands of dollars for conferences, workshops, graduate study, and even travel.
 
Janet Jacobs was equally important to other heads of schools.  She was tapped for committee and board service by national organizations including the Headmistresses, the National Association of Principals of Schools for Girls, and the National Association of Independent Schools.  She gave good advice to her successors at Ellis, never hovering, but always making herself available.
 
Early in my first headship, in fact, I talked with Janet about a school problem that was bothering me.  It was one of those complicated issues involving students, teachers, parents, letters, lawyers, and administrators.  I was pretty sure I knew what I wanted to do, but I wanted a neutral party, someone who understood Pittsburgh with whom I could test my ideas.  So I turned to Janet.  She listened to me and then asked me the question, "What do you think you ought to do?"
 
When I told her, she said, "That is the right thing to do.  Do what is right."
 
Perhaps in that way, Janet was "old school," and if she was, she was "old school" in the best ways.  Her conviction that the best thing to do was the thing that was morally right and true, her loyalty and her loyalty to the programs of girls' schools, her fairness and decency, and her unfailing hard work.
 
Now, I don't want you to think that she was some prissy headmistress.  She had a nice sense of humor.  One evening she invited a young faculty member to dinner along with his wife, with whom she had a distant family connection.  Janet wanted to be sure they felt comfortable, so she offered them a drink.  There's a theme here.  The young faculty member, wanting to do the thing that would seem proper, said, "I'll have a small glass of wine."
 
"That's fine," said Janet.  "As for myself, I'll have scotch."
 
In many ways, Janet Jacobs was thoroughly modern.  Her belief in the education and empowerment of women was one way.  She believed in education not just to get a piece of paper, but for a life of service.  She gave early and emphatic support for diversity.  She saw the city as a classroom and expanded the field trip program, and she was one of the first educators to promote the idea of global studies, a project even more significant in these times.
 
And now Janet has one more project -- heaven.  In thinking about this resolution and the passage from St. John's Gospel, "In my Father's house there are many mansions," I found myself wondering what Janet might think.  Would Janet start throwing her weight around, suggesting a new middle school here, a mini gym there, a program for angel development over here, perhaps?
 
I doubt it.  Not right away, at least. Janet was not one to go rocketing around shaking things up and forcing her opinions on others.  I think she will first make herself at home.  Perhaps she will sit in the entryway, as she loved to do at Longwood, welcoming guests and newcomers with her warm smile.  I think she will look back at Ellis, at Northfield, at Wilson, at the many homes she made for teachers and students during her lifetime.  And I pray that she may dwell in happiness, the happiness she created by opening the doors to the "mansions" of education to hundreds and hundreds of girls and young women.
 
Amen.
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MARY HINCKLEY CRANE
 
MS. STAMBAUGH:  The next resolution is for Mary Hinckley Crane.  Mary Hinckley Crane, former headmistress of Abbot Academy, died on April 29, 2007, at the age of 92.  Born in Boston in 1914, Mary spent her early years there and summered in Barnstable on Cape Cod, where she maintained a lifetime home.  A graduate of Winsor School, she spent the ensuing year as a Saltonstall scholar, attending classes at the Sorbonne and traveling in Sweden, Italy, and Greece.  When she returned after her year abroad, she attended Bryn Mawr College, from which she graduated in 1937, having majored in classical archeology.  She took classes and volunteered at the Fogg Museum before marrying Alexander Crane.  They had four daughters, before his untimely death in 1953.  She taught for two years at Barnstable High School before teaching at Abbot, where she became headmistress a year later.
 
She hired me in 1961 and became a lifelong role model.  As a young classics teacher (I was 20 when I began), I stayed at her house with her daughters while she attended Headmistresses and NAPSG.  She whetted my appetite.  From her I developed a love for Rhodian pottery, cooking, gardening, and voracious reading.  She treated me like a member of the family, even letting me in on the family call, "cooey," which she said with a smile whenever she saw a family member or me.  Later on, when I was wondering whether I had what it took to be a head, she encouraged me and took pride in my accomplishments.
 
From her tenure at Abbot, she became head of Pierce College in Athens, and then returned to Winsor, where she taught for seven years, prior to managing the Boston office of Pierce College.  She lived for a time in New Mexico and Colorado, to be near two of her children.  She loved her daughters, 12 grandchildren, and numerous nieces, nephews, and cousins.
 
She was one of those people who grew old with a broad vision.  She could and did entertain the new century and world, putting her arms around diversity, new ideas, and nonconformity as well as ancient history.  Her smile and chuckle lit up a room.  She could see the person a child would become and had enormous patience with the growing-up process.  We would all do well to emulate her kind, sensitive, and supportive self.
 
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THOMAS A. WOOD
 
MS. STAMBAUGH:  The next is for Thomas A. Wood, written by David Felsen, who also could not be here.  This remembrance draws heavily on Clayton Farraday's History of Friends Central School, 1845 to 1984, A Memoir, by Thomas A. Wood, entitled Friends Central School, 1971 to 1987, and conversations with trustees, administrators, and faculty who worked with Tom and knew him better than I did.
 
In January of 1971, Thomas A. Wood became headmaster of Friends' Central School.  Tom was a Chester County Quaker, a member of the Westchester, Pennsylvania, High Street Meeting.  He attended Choate and graduated from Haverford College with an AB in English literature.  After three years at Birmingham University in England, he received his Ph.D. in Elizabethan literature, writing his thesis on the influences of Shakespeare on early 17th century poet-dramatists.  He subsequently taught at the Hill School, Athens College, and Exeter.  Prior to coming to Friends' Central, he was assistant headmaster and principal of upper school at Friends' Academy in Locust Valley.
 
Tom Wood was a strong headmaster with vision, foresight, keen intelligence, and a remarkable eye for talent.  During his tenure, Friends' Central became a stronger school and benefits today from his legacy.  His final and by far the most significant achievement at Friends' Central in the past half century was the acquisition in 1987 of the Montgomery School campus, which led to the development of the Friends' Central lower school there and the growth of overall enrollment from 630 to around 1,000.  But as a balance, Tom always understood that great schools come from great people, and he took pride in his appointments.  His memoir is mainly a testimony to the able trustees, administrators, and faculty he drew to the school. In referring to them he wrote, "Having had their help over the years made all the difference.  It reminds me of the Casey Stengel rule about getting good people.  'I know I'm a better manager,' Casey said, 'when Joe DiMaggio's in center field.'"
 
Tom took the initiative in developing many facets of Friends' Central, but one example is particularly revealing of his unique and dramatic style of leadership.  In a section of his memoir entitled "The Arts," he wrote, "Plays put on by the faculty were well-established by the time I came to the school, but they were, I was told, half-hearted, highly amateur attempts which amused the students but didn't show off the faculty in an impressive light, to say the least.  So," Tom wrote, "I decided to direct the musical Guys and Dolls in the winter of 1973, the first such undertaking for the faculty."  He goes on, "Thus there began a long line of faculty musicals, and they turned out to be very unifying experiences for the faculty in upper, middle, and lower school, as teachers worked together and became better acquainted."
 
A key member of that production was Jim Davis, Friends' Central's current director of music and head of the arts department, whom Tom hired 35 years ago after interviewing 22 candidates for the job.  Jim vividly remembers Tom telling him that they would be putting on Guys and Dolls, and that Jim would be handling all the music.  When Jim demurred and said he preferred Mozart, and was interested in opera rather than musicals, Tom said, "My dear boy, we are putting on Guys and Dolls and you will be handling the music."  And that was that.
 
And apparently, in the same fashion, Tom personally selected the large cast from the faculty of all three divisions.  Today Jim Davis is the enthusiastic and masterful director of the school's musicals and, by his own admission, the beneficiary of Tom's seeing a certain latent talent in him.
 
One final vignette:  Joe Ludwig, hired by Tom in 1977 and current associate headmaster and lower school principal at Friends' Central, recalls a conversation with Tom about vulnerability and death.  Tom stated that when he died, he did not want a memorial service.  He told Joe that when Bob Hope's children asked their father whether he wanted to be buried or cremated, he replied, "Surprise me."
 
Two days after Tom's death, word came to the school that Tom had been very explicit in his last wishes.  Thus, on December 16, at 3:00 p.m. at Friends' Central School, there was, in the manner of Friends, a memorial service for Thomas A. Wood.  He also designated four speakers for that event. Headmaster/director right to the end.
 
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JOHN CHANDLER, JR.
 
MS. STAMBAUGH:  The final resolution is for John Chandler, Jr.  John Chandler, Jr., was the Gary Cooper of the secondary educational world.  By that I mean he was the strong, silent type.  Born on October 18, 1920, he grew up with three siblings on Meadowbrook Orchards Farm in Massachusetts.  Class of 1938 at Groton, he graduated from Yale in 1942, and just as he and his fiancée, Fay, were on their way by train to their engagement party, they heard of the attack on Pearl Harbor.  They married in 1942, before he joined the Navy and entered World War II as an officer aboard the destroyer the USS Bell, in the North Atlantic and South Pacific theaters.  According to his nephew, John R. Chandler, headmaster of Robert College in Istanbul, whom I now quote, "All three of the boys were similar in appearance -- tall, angular, with their Navy haircuts and in temperament reserved, thoughtful, but with a delightful ironic sense of humor which one would often only catch in the twinkle of an eye or a characteristic downturned grin.  There's a wonderful picture of the three boys, probably postwar, dressed identically in Navy deck wear.  They were a handsome group.  I also carry the image in my mind of the three of them standing together at their father's funeral, tall, erect, dignified, and with tears streaming down their faces.  Chandlers tend to carry their emotions deep, and don't show much.  It was a powerful moment."
 
After his war service, John spent two years as an assistant dean at Yale before going to Grosse Point University School in Michigan in 1949. In his 14-year tenure, he merged two schools, expanded the campus by adding new lower school facilities, and became widely admired by faculty, staff, and the community at large.  A former student wrote, when he heard of his death, "He inspired confidence that all would be okay."
 
After he left Grosse Point University School, now known as the University Liggett School, he came to NAIS as president, with Cary Potter as his vice president.  However -- and I'm indebted to John Esty for this -- in a Gothic turn of events, John Chandler recognized that Cary Potter would be even better as president.  He resigned to allow that to happen, and Cary Potter turned around and appointed John as vice president in the newly vacated post.  And that team, in John Esty's words, functioned for the great benefit of independent schools for the next 14 years.
 
In life beyond education, he was a lifelong rower, having rowed at both Groton and Yale.  He participated in many Head of the Charles regattas where he rowed an Alden shell, and was proud to be a member of the Union Boat Club in Boston.  It is not surprising that he chose a village in Maine on the coast as his home away from home.
 
A nephew writes, "The common denominator for all of that generation, as well as their children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren, was and remains Small Point, a beautiful place, and a place for rest and spiritual renewal.  At a time when I was experiencing turmoil, John wrote a superb letter about going for a walk on the beach to sort out his feelings.  It was beautifully crafted and its message has stayed with me.  Small Point has been a constant in most of our lives and it certainly was for him and the family.  There were also a number of school gatherings there, as I remember.  His family was centrally important to him, and they came together -- and still do -- in Small Point."
 
In answer to my question of how his uncle may have influenced him, John R. Chandler wrote, "He was certainly an influence on my life, although I do not remember him ever giving particular advice except not to be in too much of a hurry.  What I do remember vividly was a cruise on Nat French's schooner, Alamar, while I was still in college, with John, Nat, and Torch Parkman.  Simply watching these three in action, listening to them, seeing them let their hair down in each other's company, sharing jokes as well as deeply thoughtful reflections, was a profoundly significant experience and probably did more to inspire me toward a career in education than almost anything else I can remember."
 
There are undoubtedly in this room a number of people like me who were taught the fine art of administering by John Chandler, Jr., at the New or Experienced Heads NAIS workshop in the 1970s. It was the era of the three Johns:  Matthews, Seiler, and Chandler.  They demystified much, alarmed some, and sent us off to shepherd our flocks.
 
John died on Christmas Day 2007.  He left a great legacy:  Five children, 12 grandchildren, and nine great-grandchildren, along with a number of nieces and nephews.  Along with living on in his family, I suspect his tenets continue to reverberate at Groton, in Istanbul, and in Grosse Pointe, and wherever his pupils and colleagues reside.
 
Now I invite you to stand and let us observe a memorial moment in honor of these four colleagues.
 
Thank you.
 
MS. FORD:  Thank you, Blair.  We're going to take a five-minute break and then reconvene for our keynote speaker.  Thanks.
 

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